Mixed Race, or why I am about to curse a great deal
I was visiting a Guardian article about Takeaway (which had been reviewed on this blog and my hubby’s main blog), and came across a comment from someone calling themselves BBCZeitgeist. (BBC in this context means British Born Chinese). My hubby being a BBC, and my son being half BBC, I went to go check it out.
Big mistake.
At this point in the blog those of you with sensitive constitutions or who have children who are of reading age and are near the screen may want to just skip this entry. I won’t feel bad at all, it’s better for you this way.
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Last chance, folks.
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WHAT THE FUCKITY FUCK FUCKING FUCKNESS IS WRONG WITH THIS PERSON?!?!?! Apparently I had baby Alex because I am a “Mixed race Chinese baby fetisher”, but that’s okay, because Monkey (as a Western Raised BBC’s Born to Foreign Raised Parents – a level 3 on this idiot’s Hierachy of ‘Chineseness’) only had Alex because apparently he is a self hating BBCer who wishes to create a “Hegemonic Western Cultural Assimilation”.
Let’s get one thing straight, BBCZeitgeist. I married my husband because I loved him, not because I wished to bear a cute baby. He married me because he loved me, not because he felt some need to piss off generations of ancestors. When we ‘met’, it was online – I didn’t see a photo of him till well into our emailing back and forth. I met the person, not the skin tone. Our baby may not be of ‘Pure Blood’, as you so proudly go on about, but he will be loved for the amazing child that he is – biologically Asian and Caucasian, culturally Chinese, British, and American. You write that “It is puzzling as to why mixed race are ‘considered’ part of the British Chinese community.” Frankly, I don’t give a fuck whether you consider him part of ‘your’ community. His grandparents, proud HK immigrants, do. They sing to him in the songs of their youth, they speak to him lovingly in Hakka, they showed him off proudly at his Full Moon Dinner just as if he had been ‘pure’. They see themselves in him. They see their heritage in him. He is of their bloodline. He is their grandchild. That is all that matters to me.
BBCZeitgeist, you are a flat out racist, no better than the EDL in the UK Stormfront in the US, or any other racial group that claims that ‘breeding’ within groups creates a “multi-generational cultricide, genocide and linguicide”. The only thing you are missing is a white hood and a burning cross. You seem to think that the inclusion of my (apparently inferior) white blood suddenly excludes my husband’s entire heritage. Heritage is not connected to the racial line – ask any kid who was born into a military family and can speak the language of the locals in whatever base they lived at better than their own. You don’t speak as to whether ‘pure Chinese babies’ are born into happy, loving families, you are only concerned that they aren’t muddied with other races. THAT IS STRAIGHT UP RACISM, FUCKO.
Our child will know the Chinese language as well as English. He will understand Chinese holidays as well as American-specific ones. He will be a child of the Earth, no better and certainly no worse than someone whose parents happen to have the same facial features or country on their passport. My child will be proudly Chinese. He will be proudly British. He will be proudly American. And I will be proudly his mother. Monkey will be proudly his father.
My mother and father in law have been staying with us for the week, and I asked them point blank what they thought Alex was. My MIL translated what I was saying to my FIL, who thought for a moment and then said in English,
“Chinese. White. Mix. Grandson.”
That just about sums it up.
Fuckwad.
HyperHam and 
Nikky Wu are discussing. 
Nikky Wu 3:28 am on October 8, 2011 Permalink |
I'm so glad I found this…the similarities in thought are astounding! I came across that same article not half an hour ago, because I myself am a caucasian American–with the standard ambiguous melting pot background that comes from that, and my husband is Chinese (and, I actually call him Monkey as a nickname since we first started dating…just saying, this post blew my mind! haha) and we are about to have a little boy of our own. I couldn't believe how offensive the BBCZeitgeist article was…and even worse, how most of the comments under it were in SUPPORT of his horrific ramblings…Good to know someone out there felt the same way as me after reading it. My husband and I love each other, both sets of our parents already love our baby, and our child will grow up in a home that respects BOTH of his cultures. He will be in no way inferior to anyone else. And the part that really shocked me in his article is when he said:" It gets worse. Statistically, according to 2001 census, mixed race are more likely to marry inter racially than any other race, its not uncommon for their partner also to be mixed race like themselves but not necessarily the same mix nor Mixed race Chinese." WTF? LIke being a multi-cultural human being is a bad thing. That guy is a douchenozzle and he can go blow himself (to put it nicely).
HyperHam 6:15 am on October 8, 2011 Permalink |
Girl, preach on. Yeah, that dude is, to put it very mildly, a cock knob of epic proportions. You have love, your child will know nothing but love, that is ALL that matters. My hubby read it and said it sounds like someone who came here with English not as their primary language, and is trying to make up for it by \’sounding\’ smart. What BBCZ doesn\’t realize is…IF I HAD ALL THE SHITS IN SHITDOM, I STILL WOULD NOT GIVE TWO ABOUT WHAT HE THINKS. 🙂
I will say, keep reading for my misadventures in being mistaken for the child\’s nanny, or adoptive mother. Prepare yourself now, and you will be fine. And congrats on the wonderful new addition!!!